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Your daughter refused bid to appear on stage dancing school. This is not the first time the little striker, and did not want to appear singing, dancing, or any activities at school. In fact he has put on clothes to appear on stage. It seems futile to give you the spirit behind the stage so that the small increase to the stage

Indeed, not all children have the courage to appear on stage. But, according to the Rahmi Dahnan, Psi., Psychologists from the Heart Fruit and  the condition is still quite reasonable and acceptable. For some people on both conscious or not, some situations will make it a shame. For example, when meeting with people who have just known, appear in front of people, or when facing a new situation (such as new schools, new houses moving, new office). So if you have children between the pre ashamed to appear on stage or in the school, still quite reasonable indeed.

Shame Vs confident
When the pre does not dare to appear on stage or other event open in front of many people, there are generally two causes. First, the pre lack the confidence. Second, the nature of the child have gingerly.

To distinguish between children who do not dare to appear as a nature-conscious or less confident, of course parents are required sensitivity. For children who are less confident in general nature is not constrained settle. That is, children do not dare to appear only on a particular occasion only. For example, when less preparation or the audience too much.

While for children who have the character or nature conscious, observed when the nature or character that will be settled. So the child in a variety of opportunities are always interesting because the self-shame. Not only in school, but also in their own home environment or even in the family environment. According to Swallow, a specialist child psychiatrist, there are 10 things that are usually done or felt shy children. Of them, avoid eye contact, the behavior of rage (temper tantrum) to release, does not talk much, does not want to follow the activities in class, does not want to ask for help or ask the person who does not well known, using the reason that pain is not related to others (for example, in order not to go to school), does not even feel like it is.

When the less confident
Children who do not dare to appear because the lack the confidence, generally can be overcome. By providing the right stimulation and routine, children can bring the sense of believing in himself. For that task to be parents for the confidence of the child. There are several steps that can be done:
* Make preparations before the event begins. Give the atmosphere a description of the event will be followed. No lag, the stages or steps that must be done in the event. If necessary, get the child to arrive at a location 10 – 15 minutes before the event starts, so the picture can get pre atmosphere program. This will assist in the pre and adjust the taste to believe him.
* If you need to give examples. Children learn things with pre mimic or model of the environment. Therefore, parents should also be able to give examples or behave in the middle of crowd. For example, how do join with friends in the group. When children want to do, give the award. Eg, “Mama proud … fact successfully join and chat with the same passionate friends.”
Or, if you’d like the courage when the child will follow the race, a parent should also be participants and race Invite children to observe the style or behavior of their parents during the race.
* Give children the opportunity to express choices or desires. For example, when selecting a model clothing, food or crop. Option can appreciate the confidence the children.

Give stimulation with the support of the environment
For the second cause of the conscious, parents should be more careful. Because there is research that states that this character is conscious or inbred offspring. Things that parents should aware by nature shy when this becomes a problem. Because, if left the nature of this potential cause children to be buried and not grow optimally.

When parents know their child’s conscious and cause the child does not have the courage to appear, it is shown that attitudes are receiving what is the nature of conscious existence without. The next step, parents should also encourage children to overcome the shame feeling, so that confidence will grow themselves.

Here are some ways that can be done to eliminate the constrained nature of the pre:
1. Push children to join clubs or activities that attract her interest. Maybe music, science, any field of interest throughout. This can create opportunities that form the familiar relationships and comfortable with groups larger.

2. Do not mock or shy to discuss the nature of the child in front of it. Discussion as it can make children feel uncomfortable and not accepted as such.

3. Find joy and potential of children. Pushing children to dare to do certain things, through hobbies and self-potential. For example, children love to sing and develop hobinya. Include when necessary courses or training with the vocal ability to be growing ..

4. Invites children to visit a friend’s or relatives. Make a scheduled visit to the home of friends, neighbors, relatives, and play there. Visits should be done at a different location. Or, Engage children neighbors or friends to play in the school house.

5. Playing the role with children. For example, children dare not appear on stage, even accompanied his friends. So, when at home, parents and children can play the role as though there are show times, children will perform dance on the stage or dance while accompanied friends. Playing the role can be done in various situations, simulate, in a store, pretend school, pretend there is in the stage, etc..

6. Be an example for children. Children usually observe and learn from the behavior of their parents own. Therefore, parents not only encourage children to believe in themselves, but also a model of the behavior of confidence.